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How Did I get here!

During my second pregnancy I spent a lot of time being very ill and unable to breath properly. After that disturbing pregnancy I was also quite run down and sick with a range of different illnesses. My body was exhausted and so was I. After many months of frustration, bitterness and feeling sorry for myself, I eventually learnt that if I don’t look after myself then I won’t be well enough to look after my baby and my family unit, so I started making changes in my life.

To start with I just made little changes. I wasn’t going to resolve to be ‘super fit’ or be a ‘Super Mum’ for that matter, I just wanted to operate on a level above ‘barely existing.’ I changed my diet by eating less wheat laden foods and more home made vitamized soups. I snacked on almonds (made myself eventually like them) and drank a lot of water or soda water with a splash of lemon cordial. I ate when I was hungry, but tried to eat small amounts and didn’t allow myself to have junk in the house or at least not where I could see it anyway. I ate a lot of preservative free food and started getting our fruit and vegetables delivered so that I wouldn’t be tempted to go to the supermarket and stock up on junk. Unfortunately though I do still have a weakness for chocolate and in the summer months, ice cream as well.

When I eat too much processed food or foods that don’t agree with me, such as heavy laden wheat foods, I tend to get a lot of pain, nausea and I can vomit as a result. Something that has occurred since being pregnant, of course. All the bad stuff happens just from being pregnant. Anyway, I changed my diet, tried not to eat too much processed stuff, rested when my baby daughter rested and took herbal supplements as well. I went to many different practitioners and learned that my diet was one of the factors to me feeling down, bloated and unwell. I also went and saw my G.P and was put on anti-depressants, something which I didn’t want to do, but at the time saw no other alternative as I was quite an emotional and physical ’wreck. ’ This for me was a real turning point where I decided that I couldn’t keep on relying on medication to improve my quality of life.

With the help of the anti-depressants and the view that I could eventually reduce my medication within 6 months and go off it after 12 months without any harmful affects or without slipping back to where I had come I was able to start climbing back up the ‘emotional ladder‘ and improve my outlook on life once more.

I learnt that I needed to make a difference to my way of life my way. I needed to change my attitude, stop my self-defeating thoughts and learn to cope with life’s problems more effectively so that it didn’t keep on destroying me every time I was hit with another of life’s little ‘hiccups’. I knew that only I could truly get myself better and that I just had to get myself better, no matter what.

I was by now a qualified counsellor and I knew that counselling and natural therapies could help. So, yes I did start seeing a counsellor or rather a psychologist and started doing my mediation again. I started walking again with the dog and just doing light stretches at home. In making these small changes, I started feeling a bit more normal. I still felt tired and at times a little too overwhelmed but at least I was ‘heading up instead of down.‘ I knew though that I needed to keep on going up and keep on making small changes in order to improve myself and my life.

I also discovered that when I wasn’t well, the kids reacted badly and the whole family unit started to fall apart. My eldest daughter would worry that something was wrong with me and my youngest would misbehave and ‘grizzle’ far more than normal. My husband too seemed to be a lot crankier than he normally would be. I realized that these changes needed to be made on a more permanent basis and that for the sake of my sanity and that of my family I needed to have some serious time out.

I started putting my youngest (Chloe) in crèche at 11 months and getting in a babysitter or my Mum to help more often so that I could go out with a girlfriend, see a movie, go out with my husband or go out with other couples for dinner. I started writing again on my post-natal depression website and I even took some sleeping tablets (only ever 1 at a time) to help me get back into a better sleep pattern. Even if I had to get up with Chloe, I at least would go straight back to sleep instead of lying awake for hours on end.

Through all these changes I started returning to my normal self and appreciating a little more my family and my beautiful children. They too started responding positively to the changes I made and were far happier and easier to deal with, although Chloe does still like to throw a lot of tantrums.

In making all of these changes I realized that if I felt this way that many others possibly also felt this way and perhaps didn’t know where to turn, so that’s when I thought I would start my second website and help to point everyday people in the right direction. I would teach others how to make small changes that could make a big difference in improving their everyday way of life. I would point people in the right direction, so that they knew where and how to get help and how to ultimately help themselves.

Good luck and may you start getting out of life what you truly deserve. Happiness, peace and well being.